Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day, to all the mom's out there! May your day be filled with hugs and kisses, sunshine and flowers!
I am not a fan of corsages on Mother's Day. Having struggled with infertility for a number of years, the corsage was like a badge calling out to me - I am a mom and you are not! I remember skipping church on Mother's Day because it was just too hard! I ached with wanting a child and the reminder that I wasn't a mom nearly did me in!
Eventually, we made plans to adopt a child and there was much peace with that. We finished our paperwork for the adoption on Nov 11, 1997 and were now in a holding pattern until we received that "call." So we did go to church that Mother's Day. I was still childless but had the hope that a baby was going to come soon! After church, I was standing around with friends, all mom's with their corsages on, and me (I'm sure I was the only one) without. The ache consumed my thoughts. Another mom, an older, wiser mom of a friend, came up to me and gave me a hug, said a few words. The tears that had been hidden from the world, started flowing for the world to see. But my pain had been validated and it released all the emotions that were pent up. I will always remember that mom and the kindness that she gave. I pray that I may be that sensitive toward others ( I know that I have failed many times over.)
We took our son home Nov. 11, 1998! I did have a corsage that first mother's day- but I have asked that it be the last. I don't need a badge to wear - I have my sons!